Hey You, Get Off of My Cloud
by Jennifer Hoffman
Yes, the title of this article is from the Rolling Stones song but it is what I heard when I recently shared a success with someone, only to be met with a stream of criticism and doubt that made me take a step back. Was I looking at my situation the wrong way? Was she seeing something I had missed? Should I ignore her comments or were they true? I had been happy on my cloud until she stepped on it and brought rain into my sunny day.
Have you ever shared a success with someone and when you were finished talking their response just blew you away-not because it was wonderful, supportive and considerate but because they knocked your legs out from under you?
Have you ever talked to someone about an upcoming event in your life that you felt really good about, only to have them come up with a dozen ways that it could go wrong?
Have you ever been with someone who never has anything nice to say about anyone, who can't find a complimentary word to say about anything, no matter how great you think it is?
What's wrong with these people, you might think? And why can't they just be nice and supportive and considerate?
What can you do to help them learn to see the world from a different perspective?
When you're on top of the world it is normal to want to share your good news with everyone, especially those who you believe will support you. After all, they are your friends or family and that is what they are supposed to do. And instead, what they tell you begins to create doubt, confusion, and worry. Then your world becomes smaller, your hopes fade, you begin to wonder how you could have seen so much potential or been happy, you start to find fault with yourself and your dreams and you wonder whether you just imagined everything.
You were on your cloud and they decided to rain on it. Not because they chose your particular cloud but because they like to rain on clouds. More importantly, they can only see the world from their perspective, so no matter how much potential or joy you can see in a situation, they can't see the same things because that is not how they see the world and their place in it. They can't be happy for you because they can't be happy for themselves.
You have a choice, to let them stay on your cloud and turn your sunny day into a soggy mess or you can make your cloud a 'no rain' zone and set up boundaries that keep rainy people out of your life.
Why did this happen to you?
We know that nothing just 'happens' to us, we create every aspect of our reality including all of the people, situations and events in it. So why would you deliberately invite these people into your life, to rain on your sunshine? There are several explanations for this that include:
Self sabotage-you need someone to give you an opportunity to sabotage your dreams because you may not believe in them strongly enough so they step in and open that door for you
Testing your faith - you need someone to help you to develop faith in yourself so you bring in someone who can put all of your negative thoughts and arguments in front of you
Validation - you need someone to validate you and your dreams because you need to know that someone else thinks they're worthwhile
We're on the fast track to disappointment when we look to others to tell us we are on the right path. Remember the law of attraction, we attract according to the energy we are sending out into the world. So if we ask for validation because we don't have it, we will attract people who do not validate us because they do not have it to give to us.
What can you do?
There are two big choices:
You can take their comments to heart, believe them and let them become your truth or you can understand that this is their truth and you can choose whether you will adopt it as yours or not.
And there's another thing to consider. Maybe their feedback contains some valid points but when we connect to it through our own doubts and insecurities, we allow it to make our dreams smaller and bring in energies that limit us instead of using it with the detachment that will allow us to expand our vision.
Any time our life intersects with a 'rainmaker' we have to choose where we will allow our power to flow - to the doom and gloom of the person who is raining on our sunny cloud or to ourselves and our dreams. Too often we open ourselves energetically to others and ask for their support, only to be surprised and disappointed when they don't give us what we expect from them. We forget that they are responding to us from their energy and perhaps even their envy, anger or frustration with their own dreams.
Unless we are careful, the rainmakers drain our energy and we can no longer support our dreams. And this can happen in an instant. Do we need others to tell us that we are good enough? Can we believe enough in our dreams to ask for others' opinions without also asking for their approval? Is it possible for us to be strong enough in our convictions that we can use our energy to fuel our dreams and stay on that path, no matter what our 'rainmakers' say?
The next time a rainmaker appears on your cloud, remember you have some choices to make. Decide whether you will allow their truth to become yours and whether you will allow their input to provide helpful feedback or rain on your dreams. Then you can let the sun shine on your success and use your energy to support what you wish to create in your life.
There is value in everything and we need to look at every situation from all angles before we judge ourselves and those who judge us. So take the time to consider all options before you decide to give up on your dream because someone has some 'rain' they need to get rid of.
Keep the faith, we're all in this together and time is moving quickly. Become the observer in your life as you stay focused on your path.
In these interesting and transformational times, we can be overwhelmed by what is happening in our lives but there are always other solutions. Here are a few things to help you get through the difficult moments in your life:
Stay calm, focused, detached and aware and remember your thoughts are creating every moment of your life. Think the best ones.
As you ponder this and the other things that are happening at this time remember to:
Accept all gifts of understanding with gratitude and use them to apply forgiveness, release and healing to every situation.
Ask for guidance and confirmation and then wait for it to come to you.
Above all, be grateful for this opportunity to be part of humanity's amazing shift in consciousness as we all ascend into the miracle vibration.
Many blessings in these miraculous and amazing times,