Thursday, March 31, 2011

The Pressure of Becoming Someone

The Pressure of Becoming Someone

By Neil Legault

”Drop the idea of becoming someone, because you are already a masterpiece. You cannot be improved. You have only to come to it, to know it, to realize it.” ~ Osho

We tend to put so much pressure on ourselves to be somebody, to get and to accomplish stuff that it’s not a surprise if the majority of us get stuck, feel depressed, feel put down and allot of people eventually “give up”. I see many elderly people simply bitter at the world… They played the game, worked hard and feel beaten. So much pressure to be and get… But what are we measuring ourselves against? Why do we do what we do?

Living in this world and growing up in this society is the only point of reference I have ever had and over time, it created the conditions in which I measure myself. All my understanding about the world and life was taught to me. I struggle like most do to “make it”. But what is it I’m trying to do? Who am I becoming? What if all this social conditioning became some sort of brain wash? What if what I’m being told by society is wrong?

If you listen to several Osho discourses you will see that on most occasions he tries to show us that the societal beliefs about who we are and what life is about is insane. And that almost if not all of our problems with self esteem and self worth are all part of our reactions to this conditioning.

The more someone gets put down the more they will believe they are not worth anything. But who is the one deciding your worth? Who are they? Are they an authority? Are they God? NO. But we believe “the world” around us because that’s all we see. We are all living in some way unconsciously by our conditioning believing what the world is telling us. We are driven by what we believe about ourselves. This is what all the masters are trying to show us.

YOU are a wonder of the universe. Out of everything ever possible out of the trillions of random happenings, out of everything that could ever be, YOU exist!

Ponder on this for a while and you will see how special you are. This Universe created YOU. Life created you. Life is a miracle in itself and that miracle created you. It is our beliefs and conditioning that stops us from seeing it. Layers upon layers of repeated experiences and repeated messages I have heard from being in this society is forming what I believe. Everywhere I look someone is selling me the hope of being somebody and that my happiness is connected to it… Telling me that it’s this way or that way, read this, look into that… If you are trying to become somebody, where are you going to find yourself?

Over the years, a lot of who “I” think “I” am is invested in getting there… To finally “be” the person I want to be, to finally get what I’ve always wanted… to be happy. I tell you this; find the YOU that IS the miracle of the Universe and you will need to look no further.

No more searching for happiness. You will be happiness itself and you will joy everywhere.

And that’s not the end! It’s a beginning. There is so much to discover about yourself, so much wonder to see and be a part of. Just step back, step out of your thinking for a while and let life come back to you.

When your awareness of the Genuine You returns, the universe opens up to you… You are aligned with it. Everything falls into place and there is no need to struggle to get anything because you have everything… YOU.
You are a masterpiece of life.

“You are here to enable the divine purpose of the universe to unfold. That is how important you are!” ~ Eckhart Tolle

Dare to “Be” the wonder that you are!


Monday, March 28, 2011

The Awakening

The Awakening

By Sonny Carroll

There comes a time in your life when you finally get it... When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world from a new perspective.

This is your awakening.

You realize that it is time to stop hoping and waiting for something, or someone, to change or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that there aren't always fairytale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after " must begin with you. Then a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

So you begin making your way through the "reality of today" rather than holding out for the "promise of tomorrow." You realize that much of who you are, and the way you navigate through life is, in great part, a result of all the social conditioning you've received over the course of a lifetime. And you begin to sift through all the nonsense you were taught about:

how you should look and how much you should weigh
what you should wear and where you should shop
where you should live or what type of car you should drive
who you should sleep with and how you should behave
who you should marry and why you should stay
the importance of having children or what you owe your family

Slowly you begin to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really believe in. And you begin to discard the doctrines you have outgrown, or should never have practiced to begin with.

You accept the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are... and that's OK... they are entitled to their own views and opinions. And, you come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a "perfect 10" or a perfect human being for that matter. So you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head or agonizing over how you compare. And you take a long look at yourself in the mirror and you make a promise to give yourself the same unconditional love and support you give so freely to others. Then a sense of confidence is born of self-approval.

And, you stop maneuvering through life merely as a "consumer" hungry for your next fix, a new dress, another pair of shoes or looks of approval and admiration from family, friends or even strangers who pass by. Then you discover that it is truly in giving that we receive and that the joy and abundance you seek grows out of the giving. And you recognize the importance of "creating" & "contributing" rather than "obtaining " & "accumulating."

And you give thanks for the simple things you've been blessed with; things that millions of people upon the face of the earth can only dream about a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed and the freedom to pursue your own dreams.

And then you begin to love and to care for yourself. You stop engaging in self-destructive behaviors including participating in dysfunctional relationships. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water and exercising. And because you've learned that fatigue drains the spirit and creates doubt and fear, you give yourself permission to rest. And just as food is fuel for the body, laughter is fuel for the spirit and so you make it a point to create time for play.

Then you learn about love and relationships, how to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away. And you allow only the hands of a lover who truly loves and respects you to glorify you with his touch. You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say, intentionally or unintentionally and that not everyone will always come through and interestingly enough, it's not always about you. So, you stop lashing out and pointing fingers or looking to place blame for the things that were done to you or weren't done for you. And you learn to keep your Ego in check and to acknowledge and redirect the destructive emotions it spawns; anger, jealousy and resentment.

You learn how to say I was wrong and to forgive people for their own human frailties. You learn to build bridges instead of walls and about the healing power of love as it is expressed through a kind word, a warm smile or a friendly gesture. And, at the same time, you eliminate any relationships that are hurtful or fail to uplift and edify you. You stop working so hard at smoothing things over and setting your needs aside. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK and that it is your right to want or expect certain things. And you learn the importance of communicating your needs with confidence and grace. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that eventually martyrs are burned at the stake. Then you learn to distinguish between guilt, and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. You learn that you don't know all the answers, it's not your job to save the world and that sometimes you just need to Let Go.

Moreover, you learn to look at people as they really are and not as you would want them to be, and you are careful not to project your neediness or insecurities onto a relationship. You learn that you will not be, more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or important because of the man on your arm or the child that bears your name. You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love and relationships and that that not everyone can always love you the way you would want them to. So you stop appraising your worth by the measure of love you are given. And suddenly you realize that it's wrong to demand that someone live their life or sacrifice their dreams just to serve your needs, ease your insecurities, or meet "your " standards and expectations. You learn that the only love worth giving and receiving is the love that is given freely without conditions or limitations. And you learn what it means to love. So you stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn that "alone" does not mean "lonely" and you begin to discover the joy of spending time "with yourself" and "on yourself." Then you discover the greatest and most fulfilling love you will ever know. Self Love. And so, it comes to pass that through understanding your heart heals; and now all new things are possible.

Moving along, you begin to avoid Toxic people and conversations. And you stop wasting time and energy rehashing your situation with family and friends. You learn that talk doesn't change things and that unrequited wishes can only serve to keep you trapped in the past. So, you stop lamenting over what could or should have been and you make a decision to leave the past behind. Then you begin to invest your time and energy to affect positive change. You take a personal inventory of all your strengths and weaknesses and the areas you need to improve in order to move ahead. You set your goals and map out a plan of action to see things through.

You learn that life isn't always fair and you don't always get what you think you deserve and you stop personalizing every loss or disappointment. You learn to accept that sometimes bad things happen to good people and that these things are not an act of God... but merely a random act of fate.

And you stop looking for guarantees because you've learned that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected and that whatever happens, you'll learn to deal with it. And you learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time FEAR itself. So you learn to step right into and through your fears because to give into fear is to give away the right to live life on your terms. You learn that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophesy and you learn to go after what you want and not to squander your life living under a cloud of indecision or feelings of impending doom.

Then, YOU LEARN ABOUT MONEY... the personal power and independence it brings and the options it creates. And you recognize the necessity to create your own personal wealth. Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever settle for less than your heart's desire. Then a sense of power is born of self-reliance. And you live with honor and integrity because you know that these principles are not the outdated ideals of a by-gone era but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build your life. And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting and to stay open to every wonderful opportunity and exciting possibility.

Then you hang a wind chime outside your window to remind yourself what beauty there is in Simplicity.

Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side you take a stand, you TAKE a deep breath and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.

Pathways to Discover Your Life’s Purpose

Pathways to Discover Your Life’s Purpose

by Melinda P. Neisser, M.S.,PLC

“We have been put on this earth to discover our own path, and we will never be happy if we live someone else’s idea of life.”
~James Van Praagh

The GPS navigational system has revolutionized travel. Now, we can simply input our destination, sit back and let a voice activated system guide us to our destination. What a stress free way to travel! It may be surprising to hear, but we also have access to our own internal navigational system that can lead us onto our path in life. However, many of us fail to tap into this source, our “Higher Self”. Residing within this essence is our life’s purpose. When we connect with purpose we truly can reach our highest potential and live a fulfilled life.

Quieting the Mind

An ancient Sufi saying, “The Universe surrenders to a mind that is still”, is applicable when you are trying to connect to your “Higher Self”. Breath work, meditation, yoga, tai chi,and qi gong are just some of the ways that you can learn to clear your mind. After entering a relaxed state, take a pen and pencil and ask questions that can connect you to your “ Higher Self” and in turn your life’s purpose.

• How can I be of service?
• What brings me joy?
• What do I feel passionate about?
• What are my signature strengths?
• When do I feel in the flow of life?

Disarming Your Inner Critic

As you begin this process, a critical inner voice may begin to convince you that you are foolish to waste your time and energy trying to figuring out your life’s purpose. Every thought used to create a sense of purpose will be attacked in a harsh manner. It is important to recognize this saboteur, your Inner Critic. It differs significantly from the tonality of your “Higher Self “which has a nurturing, gentle, encouraging tone. By quieting your mind, you can become the outer observer and realize that this critical voice is not to be listened to. Reframe the negative thoughts with positive ones. For example, if you begin to feel that your purpose is to be of service to others but your Inner Critic tries to convince you that you are too selfish you could simply detach from the thought and envision how you have been giving in the past. From there, you could create an affirmation such as “I am a kind and giving person who has the ability to touch people’s lives.”

Life Review

Another very effective way of unraveling your life’s purpose is to conduct a life review. Starting at childhood and then moving into adolescence and young adulthood ask yourself these questions.

• What made my heart sing?
• What type of environment gave me the greatest pleasure?
• What came easily to me?
• What are the traits of people that helped me feel in the flow?
• What causes did I feel passionate about?

Repeat these questions in the present tense to reflect your current state of mind. Most likely, a common thread will be found and can lead you to your life’s purpose.

Formulating a Life Purpose Statement

After the inquiry process, begin to formulate a life purpose statement. When creating the statement, use powerful action verbs; define whom it is that you were sent here to help or the cause that you are passionate about. It should also indicate what actions will be taken to fulfill it. When you have finished your life purpose statement you should:

• Feel a deep sense of connection to it
• Have the passion to fulfill it
• Experience internal pleasure when you act upon it

Using this template, an example of a life purpose statement would be:
My life’s purpose is to assist women in discovering their path in life by aligning with their “Higher Self “and unearthing their core values, strengths, gifts and talents.

Following these pathways can make the difference between living an unlived life or one that is filled with purpose and passion. Connect to your” Higher Self” and step onto your path in life.

Saturday, March 26, 2011

The Importance of Being Friendly

The Importance of Being Friendly

By Susan Leigh

Modern life is often stressed, busy, lived at a fast time. Often there can seem to be no time available for the niceties of life, the pleasantries and the interested follow-up conversations once the essential matters have been dealt with. But those subsequent moments that are taken to smile, chat, and enquire after someone's health, holiday, cat or mother are often the moments that stay with the other person long after any business has been completed.

Being friendly builds relationships. It enhances any personal connection and turns an acquaintance or a colleague into something more meaningful. Many business people talk of networking. They spend hours attending breakfast, lunch and evening meetings to meet, greet and build relationships with other professionals for the purpose of improving future contacts. All the networking in the world will not help build a relationship of any lasting depth if there is no friendliness there.

Newly single people, newcomers to an area, people attending a place for the first time in the hope of making new friendships and meeting like-minded people all have to learn the value of making pleasant small talk and being interested and friendly with other people.

Being friendly adds a positive dimension to relationships.

- It helps ease stress in tense situations. When there is a friendly atmosphere people relax and are more able to be themselves. People are less fearful or tense if they feel that people around them are friendly.

- It gets the best out of everyone. Whether playing a game or involved in a piece of work, if the atmosphere is unfriendly then people become nervous and stressed, fearful of making a mistake or of doing something wrong. A friendly atmosphere encourages people to have a go and be less self-conscious about the outcome.

- Better contacts are made for the future. Relationships develop, people enjoy each other's company and try harder to support and help each other when they feel friendly towards each other. People will often bend over backwards when they like someone. They enjoy helping a friendly person.

- It improves confidence. People are happier to mix with others, take more chances, be more motivated when they feel friendly towards each other. Everyone benefits. Nervous people improve in confidence and find the courage to have a go, confident people often become more generous and supportive of others. People learn more about each other and it often be surprising to discover how much relationships can improve.

- People are often happier to make more of an effort, work longer hours, be more resourceful when the atmosphere is friendly. Appreciation, recognition and thanks often come with a friendly environment. People are more inclined to do their best work and be more enthusiastic. Job satisfaction increases as a result. A by-product is that sick leave and clock-watching is often reduced.

- Complaints are often more speedily resolved if the complainant has a friendly manner. Think of an angry, irate customer, shouting and swearing, perhaps threatening in manner. They may well get results, but better results come from calmly explaining the problem and being friendly towards the person who is trying to resolve the matter. They are more likely to put themselves out and think of ways around the problem when they are treated in a friendly manner.

It seems hard to imagine that so much good can come from such little effort, but being friendly improves every area of our life.

Letting Go: A Guide to the Challenging Art of Moving On

Letting Go: A Guide to the Challenging Art of Moving On

by Kate Hanley

Change can be a wonderful thing. Even when it comes in scary packages, such as illness, it can help us appreciate the miracle of our lives. The problem is, when we get scared, we have a tendency to tense up and cling to whatever we can grab onto – whether it's people, habits, food, drink, or what have you. It's a natural, human reaction. It also makes letting go very difficult.

I've noticed that people often try to "get Zen" about a situation, and stay calm no matter what’s happening in their lives. But this is a delusion. Bad news is going to rattle you. Even the most enlightened teachers of Buddhism have bad days. Kanju Khutush Tulka Rinpoche, a highly regarded teacher of Tibetan Buddhism, said it best:

"People commonly feel that because I am considered a living Buddha I must experience only serenity, perpetual happiness, and have no worries. Unfortunately this is not so. As a high lama and incarnation of enlightenment I know better."

The key to letting go is to give yourself permission to truly experience your reaction and feel everything it has to teach you. If you are angry, get mad and yell. If you are sad, watch a tearjerker and cry your little eyes right out of your head. One emotion will likely lead to another, like the old game for kids, Barrel of Monkeys, so don't be surprised if you get taken on a rollercoaster ride. It might take you an afternoon, a week or a year. Allowing your emotions to pass through you will get them to move along much more quickly than if you ignore them or stuff them down. I know it seems like a frightening proposition to allow yourself to feel your darkest emotions, as if you were opening a box that you’d never be able close again. But, as one of my favorite teachers, Max Strom, says, it's more like uncorking a bottle of Champagne. Yes, there will be some spillage in the beginning, but it will pass and the sweet rewards will be able to flow freely. Please ask for help if you need it. I have always been delighted by how open people are when I have gone to them in an obviously emotional state and asked for their support.

If the person who needs to do the letting go is someone besides yourself, the best thing you can do for them is model the behavior and let your example and your energy draw them out of their holding pattern. Let them see you cry so they can also see how much better you feel afterward. Show them how wonderful it feels to try new things by inviting them to do something that they know you are afraid of. And because the body and the mind are so intertwined, here’s a simple breathing exercise to help you flush out any old feelings or ideas that you may be clinging to. I learned a variation of this from Max Strom.

Breathing to let go

Lie on your back with a pillow or rolled up blanket under your knees and your hands on your belly.

* Inhale to a comfortable level.

* With your mouth open, make a loud whisper sound, as if you were trying to fog up a mirror, and exhale all the air out of your lungs. When you think you are done exhaling, gently use your hands to squeeze out any last bit of breath.

* Allow the inhale to occur naturally.

* Continue breathing this way for at least 5 minutes.

We typically only expel about 50% of the air out of our lungs with each exhale. This breath really works to get out the stale air and infuse the body with fresh air. It sounds simple, but it’s no joke! After all, the Latin derivation of “inspire” means “to feel with breath.” You can modify this exercise and use it throughout your day too: Anytime you feel yourself tensing up or getting rigid, concentrate on making your next exhale longer than usual.

Friday, March 25, 2011

Stop Arguing Simple Strategies To Stop Arguments And Restore Peace

Stop Arguing

Simple Strategies To Stop Arguments

And Restore Peace

by Lynne Lee

Anger uses up a lot of emotional energy and plays havoc with your body. It simply isn't good for you. Arguments cause bad feeling and can be hard to recover from. While people forgive, they can find it hard to forget. Arguments can seriously damage your relationships.

The wrong words, or even the right words spoken at the wrong time can cause a lot of trouble. The more you persist in saying the wrong things, the bigger the trouble you'll cause.

Sometimes it's simply better to stop talking and say nothing. A good way to stop an argument is to stop providing fuel. You can easily avoid an argument by simply deciding to say no more.

"A gentle answer quiets anger, but harsh words stir it up." Proverbs 15:1

A gentle answer can bring peace in the midst of an argument. Try it, and see for yourself. If you want to avoid arguments, be more careful with your words and think before you open your mouth.

Often, it isn't so much what you say, as how you say it. The wrong tone of voice or facial expression can easily spark anger.
"Fools have short fuses and explode all too quickly; the prudent quietly shrug off insults." Proverbs 12:18

Sometimes it's wise to ignore an insult. When someone hurts your feelings it's easy to lash out and hurt them too, yet it can be much wiser to let it go.

There are times when you do need to confront people. You could try calmly saying, "I don't like it when you speak to me like that, it hurts my feelings. Please don't do it."

Sometimes you simply need to admit that you were wrong. "I'm sorry," is very powerful. When you admit that you were wrong, it brings healing.

Next time you find yourself in the middle of an argument you could try saying, "I think I'm right but I could be wrong." You just might avoid a costly argument and all that you'll lose is a little pride.

"Refuse to get involved in inane discussions; they always end up in fights." 2Timothy 2:23

I love the way Joyce Meyer describes this,

"Stay out of conversations were no one knows what they're talking about, and everybody is arguing over nothing ... in many situations nobody really knows what they're talking about but everybody thinks they do. Pride wants desperately to look intelligent."

Is it really worth always being right? Stop arguing. When you continue to argue, you stop listening and that only feeds the other person's anger.

If necessary, simply walk away and give up your right to be right.

What Kind of Messenger Are You?

What Kind of Messenger Are You?

A book excerpt from 'The Fifth Agreement" by co-authors don Miguel Ruiz and don Jose Ruiz on clarity and honesty in communication.

This excerpt, from the chapter "The Three Languages," discusses the ways in which we communicate and express ourselves, as well as interpret others:

The messengers of truth

The fifth agreement is the most advanced teaching of the Toltec, because it prepares us to return to what we really are: messengers of truth. We deliver a message every time we speak, and if we don’t deliver the truth, it’s because we aren’t aware of what we really are. Well, the Four Agreements help us to recover awareness of what we are. They help us to become aware of the power of our word. But the real goal is the fifth agreement, because it takes us beyond symbology and makes us responsible for the creation of every word. The fifth agreement helps us to recover the power of belief that we invested in symbols. And when we go beyond symbols, the power that we find is incredible because it’s the power of the artistic creator, the power of life, the real us.

The fifth agreement is for what I call messenger training, or angel training, because it’s for messengers who are aware that they have a message to deliver. Angel is a Greek word meaning “messenger.” Angels really exist, but not the angels of religion with wings. We are all messengers; we are all angels, but we don’t have wings, and we don’t believe in angels with wings. The religious story about angels with wings is just a symbol, and as a symbol, the wings mean that angels can fly.

Angels fly and they deliver information, a message, and the real message is life, or truth. But there are so many messengers in this world who don’t deliver life, who don’t deliver truth. The world is populated by billions of messengers, with or without awareness. It’s obvious that the majority are without awareness. They are programmed to deliver and receive a message, but they don’t know they are messengers. The majority of the humans on earth have no idea that the symbols are their own creation. They have no idea where the power of the symbols comes from, which means that the symbols have complete control over them.

Be skeptical, but learn to listen

What kind of messengers are they? The answer is obvious. You see the consequences in the world. Just look around, and you will find out what kind of messengers they are. When you find that out, the fifth agreement makes even more sense. Be skeptical, but learn to listen. What will make a difference in these messengers? The answer is awareness. That is what messenger training does for us. It helps us to become aware of the kind of message that we are delivering in this world.

The three languages of humans

From the Toltec point of view, there are only three ways to deliver a message, or we can say that there are only three languages in the world of the humans: the language of gossip, the language of the warrior, and the language of truth.

1. The Language of Gossip

The language of gossip is the one that all humans speak. Everybody knows how to gossip. When we speak this language, our message is distorted; we gossip about everything around us, but mainly we gossip about ourselves. If we go to another country where people speak a different language, we find that it doesn’t matter what symbology they use, they speak like us, in the language of gossip, in what I call the big mitote. In the ordinary dream without awareness, the big mitote takes over the human mind and creates all the misunderstandings, all the distortions in the way we interpret the meaning of words.

The language of gossip is the language of the victim; it’s the language of injustice and punishment. It’s the language of hell, because all that gossip is made purely by lies. But humans will always gossip because we are programmed to gossip until something shifts inside of us that is also in the program. This is when we rebel against the gossiping, and the war begins in our head — the war between truth and lies.

2. The Language of the Warrior

The second language is that of the warrior. When we speak this language, sometimes we speak the truth, and sometimes we speak lies, depending on our awareness. Sometimes we believe the lies, which takes us directly to hell, and sometimes we believe the truth, which takes us directly to heaven. But we still believe, which means the symbols still have the power of our belief. As warriors, we jump from one dream to the other dream; sometimes we are in heaven, sometimes we are in hell. As you can imagine, the language of the warrior is a thousand times better than the language of gossip, but again, humans are programmed to shift the language we speak, and to speak one more language.

3. The Language of Truth

The third language is the language of truth, and when we speak this language, we hardly speak. At this point, we know without a doubt that the symbols we use are our creation. We know that we give the meaning to all those symbols to communicate with our own kind, and we use symbols with impeccability, the best we can, to deliver our message, to deliver ourselves, because we are the message. Finally, there are no more lies, and there are no more lies because we have mastered awareness, because we see ourselves as life, as truth.

The language of truth is very exclusive because it’s the language of the dream master, the artist who has mastered the dream. In the world of the master, there is always music, there is always art, there is always beauty. The master artists are always happy. They are at peace, and they enjoy their lives.

These three ways of communicating are what I call the languages of 1-2-3, A-B-C, and Do-Re-Mi. The language of gossip is 1-2-3 because it’s simple to learn, and it’s the language that everybody speaks. The language of the warrior is A-B-C, because the warrior is the one who rebels against the tyranny of the symbols. The language of truth is Do-Re-Mi, because it’s for artists who have music in their heads instead of a big mitote.

The language of Do-Re-Mi is the one that I like to speak. My head is always full of music because music distracts the mind, and when the mind is not in the way, it’s pure intent. I know that all that music in my head is nothing but a dream, but at least I’m not thinking and making a story.
Symbols tell a story

Of course, I can make a story if I want to, and it can be a beautiful story. I can focus my attention on the symbols, and use the symbols that you understand to communicate with you. I can also use the symbols to hear what you say. Usually it is about your own story. You tell me many things that you believe are true, and I know they are not. But when you tell me, I listen, and then I know exactly where you are coming from. I see what perhaps you don’t see. I see the real you, not what you pretend to be. What you pretend to be is so complicated that I don’t even bother to try to understand it. I know it is not you. The real you is your presence, and it’s as beautiful and wonderful as anything on this earth.

When you see a rose, open and beautiful, its very presence makes you feel wonderful. You don’t need to tell yourself how wonderful that rose is; you can see all the beauty and romance of that rose. You smell the rose, and the rose never says a word. You understand the message, but not with words. If you go to a forest, you see birds talking to birds, and trees talking to trees, with another kind of symbology. You can see the inner communication of everything around you, and it’s amazing. There are messengers everywhere in this world, but have you ever thought about it?

Have you ever noticed that since you arrived in this world, you’ve always been delivering a message? Even before you were born, when your mother became aware that she was pregnant, your message was there. Your parents could hardly wait for your arrival, for the moment of your birth. They knew that a miracle was happening, and as soon as you were born, you delivered the message right away with no words. They felt your presence. It was the birth of an angel, and the message was you. You were the message, and you still are the message, but you’ve been distorted by the reflection of the other messengers. It’s not the messengers’ fault, it’s not your fault, and in fact it’s nobody’s fault. The distortion is perfect because only perfection exists, but then you grow up, you become aware, and you can choose to deliver a different message. You can choose to become a better reflection of life by changing the language you speak. You can change the way you deliver a message, the way you communicate with yourself and with other people.

Now a simple question for you. I want you to understand the question, but don’t allow that voice in your head to answer the question. Just allow these words to go directly into your heart, where you can feel the meaning and intent behind the words. This is the question: What kind of messenger are you? This is not a judgment. It’s just a little doubt for your mind, but it’s a big step into awareness. If you understand the question, then just this little doubt can change your whole life.


Thursday, March 24, 2011

How to Reduce Your Anxiety

How to Reduce Your Anxiety

by Kevin Sinclair

With life seeming to move faster all the time and as more and more people seem to be in more and more of a hurry, there is a great deal to be said for the fact that we need to reduce our anxiety. Anxiety can have effects large and small in our lives and dealing with stress while it is minor rather than letting it grow is a good idea. The truth of the matter is that while everyone gets worried from time to time, anxiety is something that can prevent you from enjoying yourself and from moving forward with the things that you like the most.

In the fight against anxiety, you will find that the best thing that you can do is that you can think about it and figure out what is going on. If you are reading this article, there is a good chance that you can recognize anxiety; you are familiar with symptoms like insomnia, a heightened heart beat, and an inability to relax among others. On the other hand, how familiar are you with what triggered it? Was it being in a certain place, or doing a certain activity? What it talking with someone or was it just thinking about something specific?

There are certainly activities and instances that can make us anxious, and although your first thought might be to eliminate that instance from your life, it might not always be possible. For instance, what if driving over a bridge makes you anxious or talking with your boss makes you feel like your pulse is racing? You can't get away from these instances, and in fact, the only thing that you can control is your reaction to them.

One thing that makes many people anxious is the lack of control. When you know that you are going to be facing a situation where you feel particularly out of control, why not take some time and make sure that you get as much control over it as possible? For instance, say that you are getting very anxious about a phone call that you are going to make. Make a list of everything that has to be said and make sure that you can check off every listing before you hang up. Even doing something like this can be important.

Another thing that many people do not realize is that diet can greatly affect how anxious you are. For instance, stimulants like caffeine and things with a lot of sugar in them can charge up your body and put you in a mode where you can work very quickly, but they can also make you hypersensitive. Some people find that certain foods will trigger them, so make sure that you pay attention to what you are eating and what you can do to make sure that you are going to be getting the right kind of response.

Take some time and really consider what role anxiety plays in your life. If necessary, speak to a counselor or trained mental health professional and make sure that you are getting the advice and treatment that you need.

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

True Forgiveness

True Forgiveness

by Mike Hayden

It is rare that one can really forgive and forget. When we feel we are wronged by somebody we may be very good at giving them a second chance. We may feel that we have forgiven them and are ready to let bygones be bygones. However, by the third, fourth, fifth, or 50th infraction, we find ourselves much quicker to react to the situation. Each time, like peeling back the layers of an onion, we have less patience, are feeling more raw, more frustrated, and if we are the type prone to tears; just like the onion’s effect, we shed more tears more easily. Which only serves to teach us, or reminder us, or make us aware, that we really haven't forgotten the first incident, have we? And if we haven't forgotten, does that not mean we haven't really forgiven?

I think it does. Those of us who are on the path of studying Spirit and the way of love and light, or those of us who are following the religious path, can sometimes lull ourselves into thinking that a warm smile and a genteel demeanor means we are practicing forgiveness. Instead what it means is we are practicing Tolerance.

What Do You Tolerate?

Tolerance, as a reaction when confronted by wrong doing, is a great first step. We should honor it and encourage it. It is admirable yet it is not the end game of what the true master seeks. Tolerance does not really address the injustice being perpetrated, it only allows for a more peaceful space, a space that can allow for a deeper level of redress or healing to take place. But without that more expansive, more crucial level occurring, tolerance is left as nothing more than a placating or even a dismissing of the issue.

“I have learned silence from the talkative, tolerance from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind; yet strangely, I am ungrateful to these teachers”
- Kahlil Gibran

The true master understands that ultimately, the other is the self. This is a rather challenging concept to anchor deeply in our mind, yet alone our heart, which is where it eventually must lodge. Kahil Gibran is referring to the aspect of our experiences that has us learning so much by experiencing contrast; that is, from having others really testing our reactivity to how they are pushing our buttons. Notice Gibran is aware that he is not able to be grateful for these experiences, yet he has clearly learned the lesson of when tolerance and/or keeping your opinions to yourself may be the wise course. He is aware that he is not able to forgive the other person because ultimately, forgiveness and gratitude go hand in hand.

There is indeed the flip side to tolerance: feeling indignant or hurt because you have been wronged, seemingly intentionally, by someone else. And that is what can nudge us to lean toward the “other” direction of being intolerant. So if tolerance is the first step, is justice the second step? Because, after all, should we not make sure we are not wronged again in the future?

Does Justice Prevail?

In courtrooms since Roman times we humans have had the vision of balancing the scales of justice. The implication being that both sides of an argument have some validity, and finding the middle course, as the Zen masters would say, is how one achieves justice.

But justice also carries an energy of corrective action, and corrective action seems to sometimes be at odds with tolerance, as tolerance suggests the “turning of the other cheek”, and corrective action could suggest a more forceful response may be in order. When someone curses at you, you may want to curse right back (as I did this past week), or you could hold your tongue and elect for more tolerant behavior (which I was unable to do). And this is what got me thinking…

Where is that balance between standing up for your own honor and dignity, versus simply behaving just as the other person did, and not learning anything from “the contrasting” experience?

This person in question had done this kind of behavior in the past, and I thought I had forgiven them and moved on. Yet when the spark hit the sulphur once again, my flame of justice ignited, consuming any tolerance and forgiveness with it.

Par for the Course?

Ah. The essence of being human. If you find you are having more experiences like this in the early part of 2011, it is appropriate. The energies that are flooding the earth from our Solar System and beyond are specifically designed to burn up the old earth energies, the denser energies of intolerance, injustice and non-forgiveness. Alchemically, how that happens, is they must reach combustibility first. They must rise in temperature, come to the surface, be exposed to the air and then burn up.

So it might not seem as if we are making any progress, especially if it looks like the “same old behavior and triggers” are being experienced. But this time there is a difference.

For me, the difference was that I am very much aware of the interaction and my own behavior. And that is something that was actually pretty rare, for all of us humans. The old earth energies carry a great component of “unawareness”. It is par for the course for many to just keep repeating the behaviors that are discordant over and over…and feeling that it is quite acceptable to do so.

The New Course

In the newer energies of openness and transparency that are now coming more powerfully into the planet, we are becoming hard pressed to remain lost in our unawareness, asleep in our old belief systems that hold another is different from me, another is not my equal, and I have no responsibility to treat them as I would prefer to be treated myself. A great way to think about these things is taking a page from how our great grandparents may have expected us to treat, say “Mr. Wally” down at the corner grocery store: “Son, when you pick up the pantry items, you make sure you treat him exactly the same way you would treat your father. Be kind and be respectful.”

Somewhere along the way, that ancient wisdom got lost in the mire of judging and categorizing each other. But the reality is, no matter what station one is perceived to be living or working in, the time has come for us all to embrace unity and wholeness. There can be no more artificial positions that dictate that one or another of us holds a “higher” or “loftier” position than the other. Because how we treat another is now more than ever directly and energetically the way we are really treating ourselves.

And A Price Tag Is Attached

If we continue to treat “ourselves” without intending to bring in the utmost in respect, the true course of honoring another human being, our own path will become rapidly more difficult and troublesome. The new earth energies are now primed to immediately mirror back what we put out there. Time and space are shifting rapidly; we are well aware of how fast the days, weeks and months, even years, are going by. But it is not just limited to the passage of the days of the week…if we don’t start “getting it right”, as in, right action, we will find our immediate world, the one we live and work in on a daily basis, will crack and crumble. Literally. We will become less prosperous; less secure, less happy…will find trouble and difficulty at every turn.

The Good News

Is that the “justice” and “honor” we each seek as we interact daily with one another will be directly reflected back to us by how well we take another person’s justice and honoring into account. It is about honoring ourselves as we honor another. By starting with true tolerance, then seeking to be kind and just in our actions and reactions, we can finally venture into true forgiveness.

And can you imagine how THAT will change your world?


Expanding Love from the Inside Out

20 Practices to Let Love Flow Through You

Expanding Love from the Inside Out

by Neil Legault

When you allow Love to flow from the inside out, you are in tune with “what Love would do” and “Love hurts no one”. The flow of Love in every individual is different and is based on negative beliefs about yourself. Working on opening your heart (heart chakra), without the need to shove ideas or to find external sources, allows you to burn-up and settle your past hurts and experiences which block the natural flow.

A byproduct of allowing Love to flow through you is a greater connection with Life, connecting with the law of attraction and most importantly, Self Love.

Here are 20 practices to help you build a greater flow.

1- Resist the desire to react negatively to what’s around you. This is a hard one. Just being aware of it is a huge step.

2- Allow yourself to project a positive outlook about Live and you.

3- Meet people’s negativity by turning it around to neutralize it or shine the positive that is present.

4- Enjoy as many moments as you can where you can do a walking meditation.

5- Slow your pace on all activities and focus on doing with Quality vs. Quantity.

6- Slow your pace to make all your activities a joyful meditation.

7- Show a genuine appreciation of others early on to set a new pace for your interaction.

8- Make someone’s day by doing a spontaneous act of kindness. The more you listen to others the easier it is to identify what it is.

9- Spend time alone and allow yourself just to “feel” Love inside you.

10- Allow Love to swell up in you as much as you can. Let some tears of joy come if you can without forcing it. This opens your heart chakra. You will feel an overwhelming desire to forgive yourself or to connect with others.

11- Be present at all times. This means that you have to listen closely to what IS as much as you can.

12- Help others look at themselves in a positive light.

13- While you are being, listening, enjoying the moment, allow positive thoughts about you to surface without trying. Don’t force them but allow the ones that feel genuine to expand.

14- When you feel a strong flow and connected to Life, allow your past hurts to surface naturally and forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself allows more flow.

15- Forgiving yourself is an acknowledgement that something happened, there was hurt and now you want only to Love.

16- Project Love on purpose. Feel Love for others, animals, flowers, etc. Looking at them and feeling the Love you have for them raises their energy and they feel your Love and acceptance.

17- Allow yourself to feel with others when negative or hurtful things are happening to them. Their hurt is your hurt. When you feel Love for others, you recognize that we are one. A unity of Love to emerges with you at the center.

18- Try to see that there IS only Love being expressed everywhere. See all negativity as a cry for Love. Don’t interpret what is happening. You find it by asking “what would Love do”.

19- Bring a stable, meditative flow of Love and practice the 50 Ways to Connect with Yourself and Life.

20- Work with a friend on these and do it together to increase your awareness of the energy flow. There is more energy when two or more are together. But remember to be and have a genuine experience for yourself. I.e. be true to yourself and your experience of this moment.

A big part of being successful is creating some consistency in your life to allow the expansion of Love to happen and stay. Maintaining an upwards balance between positive expansive thoughts and the burning of old hurtful thoughts is an art that you can easily master if you allow yourself the space to do it. Old hurtful thoughts get burned up and their negative emotional charge gets released. You will still have the memories but they won’t hurt you as much or at all. This collapses the “time” required to heal.

They say that time heals all wounds but it’s really about allowing the flow of Love to happen again. In other words; Self Love.

With all my Love,



Monday, March 14, 2011

The Secret of the Three “Only” Things

The Secret of the Three “Only” Things

by Robert Moss

The great secret of fulfilling our heart’s desires and living in joy and abundance is an open secret. It is a power to be claimed as soon as we awaken to its existence and adopt the tools and habits required to bring it through.

The lesser secret involves the law of attraction: whatever we think or feel strongly, the universe says yes. If we carry around feelings of failure or dread, the world will give us lots of reasons to feel those things. If we follow our creative passions and are willing to make a leap of faith, the universe will support us and will bring us resources and opportunities in magical ways.

The greater secret is that to work the law of attraction successfully, we need to be aware of which part of us is doing the willing and choosing, and we need to develop a practice that engages the body and the larger self, not merely the calculating ego.

We have the tools we need. They are at play within us and around us, every day and every night. They are the three “only” things we too often dismiss as “only” a dream, “only” a coincidence, and “only my imagination.” They are incredible guides if we will only give them a little room and respect in our lives.

In dreams, we have access to an impeccable physician, counselor and mentor who does not lie to us but shows us what we need to do to stay well or get well. In dreams, we rehearse for challenges and opportunities that lie ahead of us. Dreams are a “secret laboratory” (as quantum physicist Wolfgang Pauli observed) where we cook up new ideas and life projects. Dreams put us in touch with our soul partners and our soul’s purpose.

Fundamentally, dreaming is less about sleep than about waking up. In much of waking life we go about like sleepwalkers, propelled by routines and other people’s agendas. In dreams, we wake up to the bigger story. The ancient Egyptians, who knew a lot about dreams, recognized this in their language. In ancient Egyptian, the word for dream is rswt, which means an “awakening”.

To make dreams your friend, reserve five minutes a day to record something from the night in a journal. Better still, use those five minutes to share a dream with a friend – but don’t let the friend tell you what your dream means. Have them practice saying, “If it were my dream” and tell you what the dream means to them.

We say, “it’s only coincidence”. Yet when we start paying attention to coincidence, chance encounters and the play of symbols around us in everyday life, we enter the weave of magic. The stream of coincidence alerts us to the fact that we are not alone, that we have invisible sources of support, and that we may be on the right course even when the whole world seems to be going the other way – or alternatively, that we may need to adjust our goals and behaviors to a deeper agenda. We discover that every setback offers and opportunity, and that mind and matter interweave at every level of reality.

To make coincidence a guide, you again need only five minutes a day. Schedule five minutes of unscheduled time, anywhere you like, and pay close attention – using all of your senses – to everything that enters your field of perception in that brief interval. Be open to getting a message from the world through the flight of a bird, or a vanity license plate, or a snatch of conversation, or a sudden gut feeling you hadn’t acknowledged before.

We say, “it’s only my imagination”, yet we live by images. They turn us off and turn us on. They have the power to make us sick or make us well. Mark Twain said, with devastating accuracy, “You can’t depend on your judgment when your imagination is out of focus.”

Part of the great secret is that if we can see and sense our destination, we are better than halfway there. To claim the power of imagination, and the fabulous fun of “making things up,” we want to devote five minutes a day to picturing a place in the where we can indulge ourselves in tasting and touching and feeling the fulfillment of our heart’s desires. Bring in anything you want or need – ocean waves at your front door, a shelf of books you have published, your dream lover, a space of deep healing.

When we make dreams, coincidence and imagination our guides and our daily delight, we become citizens of two worlds. We learn that there is a world beyond the obvious one, and that it is here we will reawaken to who we are and what we are meant to become. Reawakening to that world is like discovering colors after living in black-and-white. That other world is actually the multidimensional universe within which our 3D reality bobs like a rubber duck in a bathtub. Science knows it is there, and may be the secret source of all the events that will manifest in the world of the senses.


Toxic Relationships

Cutting Cords to Toxic Relationships

Bridge Exercise / Infinity Exercise

by Phylameana lila Desy

Among healers the sharing of energy is referred to as cording. This cord represents life support tubing energetically connecting two individuals together. Babies are born with a cord attaching them to their mothers, this is natural. But there comes a time for a mother to Cut the Apron Strings allowing her child to go out into the world on its own. This is appropriate. If the mother fails to break the cord, the child will eventually attempt to do it. This too is appropriate.

We aren't meant to be sucking up other people's energy. We also don't want to be allowing any psychic vampires sucking up ours.

Identifying Unhealthy Relationships

The world is full of unhealthy relationships. In these relationships, individuals cling to one another allowing cord attachments to occur between them. Seldom is the sharing done equally. Actually if the energy sharing was done equally it would be silly to have the cord in place at all. It is possible to be in a relationship without cording one another, in fact it is preferable. Couples that share one life source ordinarily create a relationship in which one individual becomes weaker, the other stronger. The weakened person feels collapsed because of giving away his/her life source. The stronger person feels great for a time, but his/her appetite may very well increase, craving more and more of the shared energy.

Painful Breakups

There are different types of situations we face in life that are difficult. Ending relationships ranks pretty high up in the "tough stuff" category. It doesn't matter if you were the person who walked away or if someone else left you, a loss is felt either way. It is especially painful if a relationship ends without closure. Unfortunately, often times when people "breakup" what they don't realize is that they may very well still have cords attached. The intact cord keeps an open channel for continuous feeding on each others emotions and anxieties.

Experiencing pain from an estranged relationship or troubled marriage? Try either the bridge visualization or infinity exercise to gently release the cord attachment to free yourself of continued feelings of sadness or separation.

* Wash That Man Right Out of My Hair * Slam the Door on Psychic Vampires * Cutting the Apron Strings

Bridge Visualization

Visualize a walking bridge in your mind. Imagine yourself standing on the far end of this bridge. Now imagine the person you are wanting to cut cords with is standing on the opposite end of the bridge. When you feel ready to energetically connect with the other person begin walking slowly to the middle of the bridge. Allow the other person to walk toward you, meeting you half way. Once you are in eye contact with one another you may begin communicating with an inner dialog. Tell the person what your feelings are. This is not a time to be angry or be holding onto grudges - you are releasing the ties. Tell the person that you are sorry for all of the things you said or did that hurt him/her. Tell him/her that you are forgiving him/her for all the hurtful things that were said or done in your relationship. Say your good-byes, wishing each other well in your separateness. Turn around and walk off the bridge.

Note: It is okay if the other person remains on the bridge as they may not be as ready to be disconnected from you as you are and it may take some adjusting on his/her part to get used to being outside of your energy.

Infinity Exercise

This exercise is done with another person. If the person you wish to break the emotional cords with is willing to participate this is extremely helpful. Otherwise choose someone who is willing to act as a surrogate of the person you wish to cut bonds with.

Two persons face each other while standing 6-8 feet apart from one another. Visualize the infinity sign (number 8 sideways) being traced again and again in a continuous cycle. Each crossing of the infinity sign between you symbolizes severing the cord that is keeping you emotional attached. This exercise can be done silently or with conversations of forgiveness and closure. You may like to visualize the encircling tracings in different colors as you deal with different feelings during this session. Red for releasing passions or feelings of anger, pink or green for calming heartaches, etc. Repeat this exercise until you feel satisfied that separation has occurred.

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Spring Cleaning Tips For Your Emotions

Spring Cleaning Tips For Your Emotions

by Vivien McKnight

Spring cleaning your house can be a messy job but it has to be done. So, too, with your emotions. There comes a time when you have to visit the nooks and crannies of your mind and see what is lurking there. There may be old hurts and resentments and until you sweep them away they will prevent you from moving forward with your life and getting the best out of all that comes your way. It’s the same with all the old memories that are no longer serving you. Bring them into the light, disinfect them or throw them away. Beating yourself up about past actions needs a touch of bleach. There are few people who enjoy cleaning. We would prefer to be outside enjoying life, but we cannot fully enjoy what life has to offer when we know that there are things inside which need our attention. Feelings and emotions are our energy trigger and if we want to have lots of positive energy we need to have positive feelings and emotions. We need to transform the negatives to positives. See now how you might make spring clean your emotional life.


You may be angry with someone or with yourself but wherever and whatever the cause of your anger, you are the only person who can deal with it. Feeling angry means that you have handed over power to someone else. Anger management is needed here. The answer lies within . There is a need to identify areas of your life and attitudes that you could change. Get out the mop and wipe away the grime that is anger. Take back the control by analyzing why someone or something has made you angry and see what part you played in it. Be honest.


Resentment is very toxic and needs strong anti-bacterial treatment. Sit quietly and think of situations in your life where resentment is hovering. Picture these resentments as large germs which could infect your home and your life. It’s not easy but must be done if you are to feel any kind of emotional peace. Visualize these germs dissolving as you attack them with the cleaner. Resolve to blot out any resentment and refuse to allow it to invade again.

Self esteem

This suffers when you dwell on the bad things. Time to get out the mirror polish and give the mirror of your life a brisk clean. Once you are brave enough to look at yourself and what you are experiencing in your life, the way becomes clear to making the changes that you need to make. When you can’t see in that mirror, drastic cleaning is required. You must move from a confused mind to a focused mind. As the spring cleaning gets under way you can start to move forward fully when you learn to love yourself and see yourself as worthy. Design a mantra to help you see yourself in a more positive way – “I am worthy.”


Ask yourself the question “Who or what am I blaming for my present unpleasant feelings?” Was it your old schoolteacher or your parents, an old lover? Whoever you are blaming, you have to take a step back, whisk over with the feather duster and see the reality that you were responsible for the outcomes of things in your life. Identify your part in the outcome of events and resolve to take responsibility for future outcomes.


Is there a box under your bed, hidden by dust, where you keep all your excuses? Here you might find all the reasons you have concocted for not living life in the way you would like. Examine them closely.”If I had been taller, I could have been a model and my life would have been better.” Do these justifications need attack with the all-purpose cleaner in order to refresh your thoughts? Are you harboring there the names and memories of people and circumstances that led you to feel cheated, abandoned, abused, frustrated? If you are, empty that box, throw away the thoughts, replace them with positive thoughts and tidy away the box again. Justifying gives you a convenient escape routine from taking action. Without action change cannot happen.

Manage your emotions

You can’t ignore your feelings and if the feelings and emotions are negative you absolutely have to deal with them. Get a strong broom and sweep them ceremoniously out of the door. Changing your negative thoughts and reactions to positive ones activates the Law of Attraction and brings positive people and situations into your newly spruced life. Get in touch with your feelings no


Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Signs From Angels

Signs From Angels
How to Receive Messages from Heaven,
Communicate With an Angel

by Alice Landry

Divine guidance from the angels can come in many forms. In order to receive their gifts, however, you must first ask the angels for their help due to the spiritual law of free will.

As you tune into your senses and allow yourself to notice their signs, you can experience a renewed sense of faith and learn to utilize these light beings in all aspects of your life. Review the following examples of how angels can relay their presence and messages.

Angel Shaped Clouds

Angel cloud sightings have been reported all over the world. Since clouds can easily be molded into any form, angels use this medium to make their presence known and offer comfort, peace, and reassurance of well-being.

Actual wings, angel garb, halos, and faces may be discernable. Colored clouds or orbs that appear on digital pictures of the sky may also indicate angelic phenomenon.

White Feathers from the Angels

Feathers are a common form of communication from your angels. If you have prayed to the angels for guidance or for a sign that everything's going to be okay, be sure to notice feathers, especially white ones. They can appear as tangible objects on the ground or floating from the air.

Moreover, you may notice a random image of a feather, such as on television or on the side of a moving truck. The angels use various means to get your attention and let you know they're here to help.

Pennies from Heaven

People often have a primary symbol associated with angel messages, like rainbows, butterflies, repetitive number sequences, or pennies.

If you seem to attract pennies into your life for no apparent reason, you are probably receiving gifts from heaven. The angels may be offering you consolation or just a reminder to bring you joy. Also observe the dates on the coins as they can have specific meanings.

Musical Signs from the Angels

Clairaudience, or "clear hearing," is another route to receive divine guidance. The angels love to create celestial music, and you may have heard their symphony playing in your head or as an actual audible sound.

In addition, angels can communicate through music by cleverly arranging for a song with words like "angel" or "heaven" in the lyrics or title to play at just the right time you need to hear it.

Angels in Dreams

Dreams have always been an avenue for the subconscious mind or the spiritual realm to communicate with the conscious mind. When you are in a state of deep sleep, your mind is more receptive to divine intervention and communication. If you have a question to ask your guides or angels, write it down in a journal.

Upon awakening, be sure to describe any visions, feelings, or insights you had throughout the night while you were dreaming.

Angels are eager to help you with everyday tasks. They will provide you with messages of their presence and comfort, guide, and protect you on your life's journey. Remember to ask the angels for help and notice these and other signs as gifts from these heavenly beings.


Tuesday, March 8, 2011

25 Ways to Raise Someone’s Energy and Your Own

25 Ways to Raise Someone’s Energy and Your Own

by Neil Legault

In our society we are so used to the day to day interactions with people who play mind games and try to influence others. Being with others and being genuinely you can be difficult when trying to navigate the world we live in. The competition for attention can be quite draining and often, after a day of continuous contact, you come home and feel completely drained instead of energized.

The 25 traits below represent the ideal way to be with others. Consciously working on these for yourself is the spiritual practice doing onto others as you would have them do onto you. Those who possess these traits are liked by many simply because being this way gives energy to others. It is the practice of being loving, caring, giving and sharing which is all about the flow of energy.

1. Allow others to be just as they are.

2. Give others the space to be and express themselves.

3. Show them your gratitude.

4. Be genuine, honest, open and loving.

5. Show a genuine interest in them.

6. Show them how unique they are.

7. Speak your truth without the need to justify it.

8. Allow others to speak their truth without judging them.

9. Listen. You’re alone when you do all the talking.

10. Don’t gossip about others. Talking highly of others is great but gossip is an energy drainer.

11. Give others the benefit of doubt – Everyone is human. Things are not always what they seem.

12. Give others space when they need it. Everyone needs their own space at times to refocus.

13. Consider their feelings.

14. Allow others to make their own decisions.

15. Allow your encounter to be just as it is without needing it to be different.

16. Be the same person with everyone.

17. Give them energy by sharing your excitement and passion for life.

18. Let them know how they bring something special to your life.

19. Be yourself.

20. Ask others for their honest opinion.

21. Resolve problems together.

22. Spend quality time with them. When you are there, be fully present.

23. Share an experience. Do something that you both have never done before.

24. Be playful, laugh and have fun. Stop being so serious. Being too serious is an energy drainer.

25. And most importantly, Know when to walk away from someone who is draining your energy on purpose. Its one thing to help someone in need and another to be abused by energy suckers. I’m sure you have already met someone who continuously drains you.

Try to feel when others are taking energy from you or giving you energy. Observe how others interact with you and if you look closely enough, you can pinpoint which trait they are not observing within themselves. Some people know and actively like to drain energy from others and most people have no clue because they are not conscious of it. It’s become a subconscious habit. Seeing and changing your subconscious habits allows you to connect with the flow of energy that’s within you. When the energy flows outward, you don’t have the need to get it from somewhere else.


Monday, March 7, 2011

Why Empaths Experience Emotional Fatigue

Why Empaths Experience Emotional Fatigue

Helen Akers

Empaths are considered to be those who possess the ability to feel the unspoken emotions of other people, often without conscious intent. Some empaths can also literally feel the symptoms of another person’s physical ailments as though they were their own. As a consequence, empaths can find themselves becoming emotionally overwhelmed and can begin to exhibit symptoms of depression, exhaustion, anxiety, and even chronic fatigue syndrome.

The Characteristics of an Empath

Empaths have a sixth sense when it comes to emotions and the hidden motivations that drive human behavior. Many, if not most, individuals tend to mask their true intentions and inner feelings around others. At times this masquerade can even extend to those that are considered to be close friends and family. Empaths have a keen sense of intuition – a sort of inner compass – that is able to subconsciously read what is really going on beneath another’s expressions.

While the trait of empathy continues to be researched by both the traditional scientific community, as well as by alternative medicine practitioners, the method in which the trait works has yet to be fully uncovered. In fact, many empaths themselves are unsure of how their ability to tune into others happens. Seemingly automatic, empaths often “know,” or at the very least “feel,” without being able to exactly put into complete words a description of the knowledge they have obtained. What does seem to be known is that the trait of empathy is genetic. It is a part of an individual’s DNA that can neither be erased nor abandoned, but something that an individual can become aware of and learn to work with, rather than against.

Emotional Fatigue, Exhaustion, and Signs of Stress

Being an empath opens the door to an enriching, and at times, colorful life experience. However, the tendency to automatically tune into the emotional needs and feelings of others has its flip side. An empath can absorb these energies from either a close proximity or a distance, from those that they physically encounter or from those that they only vicariously become aware of. As individuals with a strong pull towards helping others, empaths often find themselves saddled with negative emotions such as distress, helplessness, anger, despair, and the like.

The absorption of negative energy can result in the physical manifestation of symptoms that are related to exhaustion, fatigue, stress, anxiety, and a sense of emotional overwhelm. Not only does an empath have to process their own emotions, but the natural tendency to take on the emotions of others can leave them wondering which is which. Already sensitive to life’s demands and everyday outside sources of stimulation, empaths can find themselves feeling physically exhausted without explanation.

Physical fatigue results in extreme tiredness that can interfere with the performance of routine tasks. It is typically caused by such factors as inadequate amounts of sleep, underlying chronic health conditions, lack of exercise, obesity, environmental triggers, or medication side effects. Emotional fatigue can result in the same feelings of extreme tiredness that often manifests as a combination of a physical desire to do nothing but sleep and a sort of mental aggravation towards the idea of accomplishing anything task-oriented. Emotional fatigue can be triggered by anxiety, depression, an overextension of one’s self, major life changes or constant stressful environments, such as a toxic workplace.

The Connection between Empathy and Emotional Fatigue

Since empaths take in more than they can sometimes readily process, their threshold for too much stimulation is often lower than those who do not possess the trait. Before they have had the chance to sort out and determine which emotions are theirs and which are not, empaths may continue to be absorbing additional emotional information or experience outside sources of stimulation that can trigger an emotional outburst. Similar to that of a volcanic eruption, the absorbed emotions continue to build up internally until they can no longer simply remain in an unprocessed like state.

Whether or not an empath has developed a coping mechanism for release such as meditation, visualization, or a mild form of dissociation combined with deep breathing techniques, it is their nature to simply feel what others feel – negative or positive. They can even literally take on the physical symptoms of someone else’s illness, but receive no medical explanation for it. As a precaution, it is vital that empaths take the necessary time to privately decompress, process, and eventually release all the energy they have absorbed throughout the day. Learning to set physical and emotional boundaries, while also learning to accept that feelings of physical and mental fatigue are part of being an empath, can help them reestablish a sense of self-defined control and vitality.