Friday, March 25, 2011

Stop Arguing Simple Strategies To Stop Arguments And Restore Peace

Stop Arguing

Simple Strategies To Stop Arguments

And Restore Peace

by Lynne Lee

Anger uses up a lot of emotional energy and plays havoc with your body. It simply isn't good for you. Arguments cause bad feeling and can be hard to recover from. While people forgive, they can find it hard to forget. Arguments can seriously damage your relationships.

The wrong words, or even the right words spoken at the wrong time can cause a lot of trouble. The more you persist in saying the wrong things, the bigger the trouble you'll cause.

Sometimes it's simply better to stop talking and say nothing. A good way to stop an argument is to stop providing fuel. You can easily avoid an argument by simply deciding to say no more.

"A gentle answer quiets anger, but harsh words stir it up." Proverbs 15:1

A gentle answer can bring peace in the midst of an argument. Try it, and see for yourself. If you want to avoid arguments, be more careful with your words and think before you open your mouth.

Often, it isn't so much what you say, as how you say it. The wrong tone of voice or facial expression can easily spark anger.
"Fools have short fuses and explode all too quickly; the prudent quietly shrug off insults." Proverbs 12:18

Sometimes it's wise to ignore an insult. When someone hurts your feelings it's easy to lash out and hurt them too, yet it can be much wiser to let it go.

There are times when you do need to confront people. You could try calmly saying, "I don't like it when you speak to me like that, it hurts my feelings. Please don't do it."

Sometimes you simply need to admit that you were wrong. "I'm sorry," is very powerful. When you admit that you were wrong, it brings healing.

Next time you find yourself in the middle of an argument you could try saying, "I think I'm right but I could be wrong." You just might avoid a costly argument and all that you'll lose is a little pride.

"Refuse to get involved in inane discussions; they always end up in fights." 2Timothy 2:23

I love the way Joyce Meyer describes this,

"Stay out of conversations were no one knows what they're talking about, and everybody is arguing over nothing ... in many situations nobody really knows what they're talking about but everybody thinks they do. Pride wants desperately to look intelligent."

Is it really worth always being right? Stop arguing. When you continue to argue, you stop listening and that only feeds the other person's anger.

If necessary, simply walk away and give up your right to be right.

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